So let’s talk lash extensions…
Have you tried them yet? If not, allow me to introduce you to your newfound fashion addiction.
I first tried to have a set put on some 4 years ago and no where at the Lake of the Ozarks was doing them. In fact, I was told by the aesthetician I made an appointment with that, “I only do those on old ladies?” And instead she sold me some Latisse. I was shocked because even 4 years ago extensions were all over the gram!
Fast forward to today when some aestheticians and stylists are doing nothing BUT lash extensions. I have now been with my girl (Erin) for a solid 3 years and going! I feel like my lash extensions are one staple that I must keep in my life regardless (kind of like a once per month facial). I wanted to learn more about why lash extensions have become such a thing, so I interviewed Katie Cole, lash extension extraidionairre and owner of Lashes By Katie Cole located in Osage Beach, Mo.
How often do your clients have extensions applied?
Clients need to get refills every 2-3 weeks
What’s the average cost?
A whole new set of lashes can range from $90-$120. Refills range from $50-$85. All pricing will depend on the lash artist as well.
What kind of care do the extensions require?
Eyelash extension maintenance is very important and can definitely determine how long they'll last! First, avoid touching your eye area at all costs! You should brush and clean them once a day ( foaming cleaners work best).
How long does an appointment take?
A full set is typically booked for an hour and a half. Fills will generally take 45 minutes to an hour.
My lash appointments have become a favorite part of my monthly routine. I see my girl Erin about twice a month and my 30 minute appointments are intentional quiet spots in my schedule that require little thought or effort from me. My eyes are forced to remain closed during that time, I cannot take phone calls or answer texts messages, and I don’t even have to talk if I don’t want to. My mind drifts away with the sounds of soft music playing in the background and usually I fall asleep. Only to wake half an hour later with a set of long, beautiful lashes gracing my eye lids.
Want to know more about lash extensions? Check out my girls Lashes by Katie Cole (@lashesbycakecakecole) and Erin Bell (@erinleelash) for all the deets. Or find an artist in your hometown — and prepare to be addicted
When I was a sophomore in high school, I won homecoming queen. I was so excited to have my dad there that night because he and my mom were divorced and he didn't get to come to a lot of my events (and I was involved in everything). I think I still have the basketball necklace and the crown somewhere, but you know what I have that is most treasured from this night? My dad's advice.
After the crowd of congratulators died away, he walked up to me and gave me an awkward hug (he wasn't a hugger). And he looked me in my eyes and advised me bluntly, "don't let your head get big".
He was proud of me, I knew it. I could see it written on his face and in his crooked smile. But he knew that more than I needed a fake crown on my head, I needed to be reminded that other people matter more than my popularity. His advice that night became etched on my heart and I hear his words every single time I accomplish something (or fail). This little accomplishment of homecoming queen at a small school in a tiny town became a huge lesson about life for me. "Don't let your head get big" is my reminder always to stay humble and to put others before myself.
Fast forward to today; running a business, building a brand, and working to contribute to the lives of women in my community. As my competition races past me with more followers or more likes or more sales...I just keep reminding myself that PEOPLE (real people not "@ people") are more important than profit. Maybe I didn't gain followers today, but did I connect with the girls who were right in front of me? Maybe I had fewer sales, but were the sales I did make genuine and valuable to the customer? Maybe everybody isn't buzzing about my shop today, but am I celebrating the girl who is getting the attention? My heart is to create a space and place for each of you who follow me or shop from me to feel like you matter. My heart is also to connect with and support women who are in the same business as me, and even the ones who aren't.
I'm so thankful for my dad's advice on the night of Homecoming 1993. His words (and his character as a man) have shaped me into a woman who cares little about medals and awards, and more about the hearts and emotions of the people around me. That makes me feel kind of odd in the world of gaining all the followers and killing all the sales, but you know what - what my dad thinks of me matters more than all that. And he would not stand for me flaunting insta numbers today or bragging about being a queen in 1993. His reminder to stay humble has become a very core part of who I am ... and now a foundational part of how I am building Gold+Gray.
I just finished my first year in business and here are the two big lessons I've come away with.
1 - Always be ready to say yes.
Many times this year I've allowed my limiting beliefs to almost convince me I should say NO to opportunities. "I'm not ready" and "It won't be perfect" are a couple of the lame excuses I allow to sometimes creep in.
The thing is, I'll never be ready enough.
And if I ever do get to the place where I think I've got this gig figured out, it'll probably be time to move on.
And Lord knows it will never, ever, EVER be perfect.
When and if I hear that thought creeping in I know I need to move forward with a Y. E. S.
The idea of perfection is a crap lie!
And another thing - when I try to perfect it or control it, God loses the glory. The success of my story will be His to own, because I am nowhere near qualified or knowing what I'm doing (STILL).
2 - The values that I hold most dear will be challenged and even doubted.
This year has caused me to doubt one of the foundational beliefs that I wanted to build my business on ... that women in business can support and encourage one another with authenticity and a heartfelt "I got your back" attitude.
I guess I still believe this is possible, but what I've learned is that it's just not common.
We haven't taught our girls how to become this woman, and in business "beating out the competition" is the norm when it comes to attitude and ideas.
I believe competition is healthy, when the people involved are healthy, and that it can make us better.
But I think competition for women is tricky because of the way we tend to view another woman's success as our failure. It can get real ugly, actually.
No matter the challenges this year has brought me in this area - I still want to grow my business with a heart of community and connection when it comes to my competition.
And more than that I want to grow women.
My dream is to employ women who are willing to embrace this philosophy of lifting and supporting one another and to create a team of badass girls who are willing and ready to show the world how to do things different.
Oh, and the pic. Today my first ever fashion shoot was published in Lake Lifestyles magazine. This was one of those "I'm not ready for this moments" where I doubted myself and feared it wouldn't be perfect enough, but I said YES anyway...and I'm so thankful I did! The day was super fun and the girls were so rad and I couldn't have asked for better shoot even if I had planned it! : )
Fashion on the Gram
Instagram that is.
Where do you go for fashion inspo? My instagram has pretty much become a fashion app for real. It’s no secret that women are building literal careers showing off their fashionable sides on the gram. I, for one, love it and am so thankful that when I hit a rut with my style, I can turn to my “go to” girls on social media to show me something new.
In today’s post, I wanted to share some of my fave instagram influencers. I’m all about sharing the love so go give them a follow! I promise you won’t be disappointed.
One of my most favorite accounts is @krista.horton. For me, the fashion can be on point but I need some personality to go with it and this girl brings all her fun, quirkiness to her feed. She has two of the cutest littles, a down-to-earth insta-husband, and some major style that she shows off on her REAL body. There’s literally not much she doesn’t share on her feed, so it’s not all clothes and shoes, but her style will keep you coming back for more.
I also have a slight girl crush on @happilygrey. She’s less quirky and funny and more straight style that is nothing short of killer. Her feed is so visually stunning and her style so impeccably carefree that I just want to crawl inside one of her photos to see it all for real. The girl behind the feed is Mary Lawless Lee and at a whopping 938k followers, I think she has earned her insta-fame. One of my new fave additions to her feed are the IGTV videos she’s been adding featuring hair how to’s, home and decor style, etc…. Trust me! You will love her!
Honestly, I have so many accounts I love that it’s hard to narrow it down to just one more, but if I HAVE to pick just one I’m going to go with Kenzie and Carol Carter on @kc_doubletake. They are twins from South Carolina who’s dressing room try on sessions are some of the best! These girls have a laid-back, beachy style and are happy to share all of their style ideas on the gram. The best part of their account is getting to see how they style things so differently, even as twins!
So yeah, I love social media and I love that I get to be inspired by so many amazing women on the daily as I scroll through…in fashion and in LIFE!